Wednesday, April 9, 2008

The Right One

Somebody once told me that, “finding the right person is very hard and very wrong... it is best to be right person for the one you love and there you’ll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a “right person” for you... and don’t rush things because somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you.”

You can never be perfect... the person you love can never be perfect, but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the both of you. But no relationship is perfect without God. That’s why we have marriage. It’s a bond not only between you and your loved one, but also with God.

Our relationship fail not because (s)he’s not the right person, it’s because we expected too much and we decide on our own. Let God do the work. You may call it waiting time, but while you are waiting... pray. Let God guide you always. He knows better. No, He knows best!

Love is not what you think, it is sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love. Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life. Other is saying love is immortal and can never be defined. When we think we’re in love the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us. We say this phrase “you are the most wonderful gift from God I have ever received...” After a terrible fight or sometimes ever a petty quarrel we then say “you are the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made in my entire life!!!

Now how do you say and spell the word L.O.V.E? Are you really deeply into it? Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whisper right into our ears. Most of the time; these love promise like, “forever, till death do us part, etc...” Would end up “never” and we should part ways. I’m not no longer happy with you! “My love for you is dead! “Many times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero degree. (S)He ain’t the right one to come. But the big question anyone could answer is “is she/he the right one?” and “when is the right time?”

That made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting the right person to come and the right time to commit? A big YES is the answer. Don’t be in hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you be already into it. Try to find to really understand your feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship. You’re the right, there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there is a compatible relationship that goes, along with it. If you already knew that you’re too big to fit into a small size T-shirt, don’t give it a try. You’ll probably break it and pay for the damage you have made. If you knew felt that the relationship will not last, don’t go deeper into it. You’ll just suffer the consequences and live hell the rest of your life. It is hard to say goodbye though, but you can’t make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings.

Try to let go and give yourself a change to live to the fullest. Give yourself a change to grow and give your heart a much-needed attention. Then you will find that you have made the right decision and made it all by yourself. More frequently than not, we all act in hypocritical manner for some reason.

We call it love when we can’t leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong it’s just pity. We call it love when we’re too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storm of life. We misunderstood, its just that we’re too much dependent to them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave, no one would accept our past and us. We are mistaken, its just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn’t something you can buy or beg. It is real and existing...

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